Life is what you make it.

Our lives and what happens within them are down to us


We can look at someone else and say ‘It’s alright for you with your big car and your big house.’

Of course we may not see that they are kept awake at night worrying about how they can keep up the repayments on the loans they’ve taken to pay for these things.

But even if they’ve paid everything off and they own it all outright, it’s very unlikely that these things just fell into their lap. They’ve probably worked jolly hard for it and sacrificed a lot in terms of time off, relaxation and/or peace of mind.

They may be living the life of O’Reilly now but very possibly for the first 20 years of their working life they had no holidays, only went out once every two months and had no social life as they were working all the hours under the sun.

Even if they won their money on the lottery and have never worked a day in their lives, it’s irrelevant to you and your life.


Our lives and what happens within them are down to us

YOU decide what you want in life and YOU must go out and get it.

If this means compromising on one thing in order to get another then this is a decision that you have to make.

Is sacrificing A in order to get B worth it for you?

If you decide that the sacrifice isn’t worth it then it’s not a case of ‘It’s not fair’ but a case of ‘This is the route that I’ve chosen’.

The sacrifice might be that you can’t take any holidays for a while if you want to save to start a new business.

Or the sacrifice might be that you can’t go out three times a week if you want to go on holiday twice a year.

It might be ‘I would love to have a family but in order to do that I would have to give up work.'


So what is it that you feel the world owes you?

And when I say 'world', we're talking about your world.

The world that you are in charge of.

What is it that you expected to have, or be, by now?

And why aren’t you there yet?

What is it that you want?

Decide how badly you want this and whether you are prepared to do what’s necessary to get it.

Whatever this is for you, it may look very daunting. It can feel easy to say,

‘I won’t bother. I’ll stay as I am.’

Wouldn’t it be great to have someone help you to decide what it is that you want, devise a way for you to get it and support you along that road?

If that sounds good to you then do get in touch and we can have a chat about how we might go about that.

If however you’ve seen the light already and are champing at the bit to get on and implement your plans then that’s excellent!

Good luck with it and enjoy the ride!


Decide what you want.

Decide whether you want it bad enough to take action on it.

And go for it!

Do call for a chat if you would like any help.

​Bye for now!


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by Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach

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