Three Steps to a Happier life

It can take a lot of confidence to live the life that YOU want

Have you got the confidence to be happy?

In order to be happy, you need to live a life that is in alignment with your true self

A life where you feel you are being authentic.

Dreaming lady

What makes for a happy life?



This will be unique to you

I will be putting three things to you.

The answers to your happiness will be revealed by the thoughts that these answers provoke within you.

Once you’ve read each section below, write down your thoughts and feelings.

It’s useful to do this straight away as your instant reaction is often the truth. This truth may be overtaken by logic once you’ve had chance to think about it.

For example:

“What’s your favourite colour?”   

“Red!”  

(oh no isn’t red a symbol of anger. I don’t want to be seen as angry. Perhaps I prefer blue).

“Actually no it’s blue!”

If your first answer is something that you’d prefer it not to be, you have some valuable information to work with.

Knowing how you don’t want be is the start of knowing what you do want to be.  

No-one else will see your notes so do try to be honest with yourself.

So, here we go:


Step One

Live the life you want, not the life you feel you should.

There are lots of reasons why you can end up living the life that you do.

Woman questioning the life she's living

One of these reasons may be that you made the choice to take this path many years ago and have simply continued along it without question.






At the time you made the choice, it may well have been a good idea, but you’ve changed.

Whilst you’ve changed within yourself, you haven’t changed the path you’re on.

Maybe you’ve spent so much time, effort and money to get where you are professionally that changing doesn’t feel like an option.

Perhaps being in this relationship has too much tied up in it: house, children, holiday home, mutual friends. It doesn’t feel good to think about changing.

Or maybe it hasn’t occurred to you to change.

Think about your situation, whether that be work or personal.

Are you happy?

I am assuming you want more from life and that’s why this article caught your interest.

Do you want to stay in this same job/situation that no longer makes you happy?

Think about the situation you’re in - the life you’re living.

Think about how you got to where you are today, and why you are still there.

Write down everything that comes to mind, both facts and feelings.

Then write some more.


If you need some prompts, ask yourself these questions:

  • Am I happy with my life
  • What specific aspects am I not happy with
  • How did I get to this stage in my life
  • Why haven't I changed it yet
Hand and pencil writing down everything

You've completed step one!

This may have raised some issues or surprises for you. 

Continue to think on the things that you've written down. 

Let your mind wander and see what answers come to you. 

When you feel ready, click on this link to reveal

Step Two

Are are struggling with what you've found?

If you have become aware of issues through this exercise, or indeed if you already knew what you were struggling with and would like some help, please do schedule a call and we can talk. 

Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach

Please do let me know about what you discovered and have changed as a result. I’d love to hear!

coaching@jessicahylandslifecoaching.co.uk