How many times have you thought:
“I’m exhausted….....come the end of next week I will have got stuff out of the way and will take an afternoon off to sit and do nothing. That will recharge my batteries.”
By the end of the next week of course your to-do list has had loads of things added to it and there are still jobs on there that you haven’t got completed yet....
“OK, so at the end of the month I’ll be able to take some time off…...”
Come the end of the month, hey presto the same thing has happened again – your to-do list is overwhelming and again there’s no time to rest.
There can be lots of reasons why we feel exhausted.
Extreme tiredness or overwhelm should be checked by your GP so let’s assume you’ve done that.
You get up in the morning and are running all day to get everything completed. You flop into bed, late at night, only to get less sleep than you need before getting up and repeating the process.
You're not in a good relationship. Your kids are having problems at school. Your finances are a worry.
All of these things will drain your energy.
You may have a condition that depletes you of energy or enthusiasm…… or both.
In order to get a grip on our feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion and ultimately unhappiness which is what it will all lead to, we need to take a look at ourselves.
The bottom line is that we need to address the cause of our feelings; whether that is having a manically busy time all day every day, being miserable in our relationships or helping our children to resolve their problems.
If you need a day off, organise that now.
You know that with the best will in the world, if you leave it until next week when you’ll have some time, things will have changed and that time won’t be available.
You would use a half day holiday from work?
The dinner wouldn’t get prepared?
The phone call to sort out your electricity bill wouldn’t get made?
On the minus side:
· you may not have enough holiday to take all the Christmas shopping days that you usually take. You may have to spend a Saturday morning shopping instead come Christmas.
· You wouldn’t have the special meal which you always make on a Friday. Instead you may have to have a pizza out of the freezer, phone for a take-away or treat yourself out to dinner.
· The error on your electricity bill wouldn’t get sorted until the following day.
On the plus side:
You will have a lovely relaxing time, doing nothing, or doing something but that something being a thing that energises you and makes you feel great.
Not something that ticks off an item on your to-do list.
Very often the solution to our problems around time and stress are staring us in the face but our minds don’t sit still long enough for us to be able to see them.
You may be surprised at what ideas and solutions come to you when you give your mind time to rest and relax.
Whether you come up with a brilliant plans to resolve things or not, you will feel so much better for it.
You will be much more effective the next day for having had a rest.
If you continue to push yourself, you may find that you start getting more colds than normal. You start catching every bug that’s going around. You start to suffer from headaches, stomach aches, indigestion, muscle ache.
Whilst you need to get your GP to check these things out, the chances are that it is your body shouting at you to give yourself a break.
Your body talks to you about this un-ease it’s experiencing by sending signals that you know mean to rest.
You are worth it.
I’m always here to help if you need it, but otherwise, take time out for yourself, relax, and ENJOY IT!
by Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach