Are you nice?

Are you nice to everyone, or just everyone else?


Being truly nice to yourself can be a challenge....

How much do you put up with?

Not from other people but from yourself.

Does the voice inside you keep saying negative things that are making you miserable?

Sometimes there can be an incessant stream of negativity.

Stuff about yourself:

‘My friends always look so good. I look awful’

‘No-one’s coming to speak to me. No-one likes me.’

‘I wish I was interesting to talk to. Life would be fun then’

We even make stuff up:

‘I bet if I join that club I’ll be the outsider. I’ll be the one everyone laughs at’

‘I know what will happen if I go to that party. I’ll be stuck in the corner on my own’.

Why do we do that?

It’s almost as though we’re deliberately sabotaging our happiness.

In fact it’s not ‘almost as though’. You are sabotaging your happiness!

Why would you do that?

Why would you make sure that you don’t enjoy anything.

Ensure that you don’t feel good about yourself?

There are loads of reasons for this and it will be different for each of us.

It’s made up of things that we’ve experienced in life.

These experiences have ‘taught’ us that the negative things are fact.

Obviously the thoughts we have aren’t fact but that’s how it seems.

Imagine a life free from these negative thoughts.

How can you do that?

The first thing is to recognise when you’re having these thoughts and stop them.

‘I know what will happen if I go to that party. I’ll be stuck in the corner on my own’.


‘I know when I turn up at that party that I will be fun, entertaining and good company. People will love talking to me.’

Change every negative around. Don’t listen to the voice.

Secondly, think about where the negative idea comes from.

You may realise that the idea came from one occasion 20 years ago when someone told you that you were boring.

When you recall that situation you remember that it was someone who was always putting you down. Someone who was always trying to show that they were better than you.

Realising this will also help you to realise that there was no truth in the put-downs.

They were things that person made up in order to try and feel better than you.

Having established that the fact that you are boring was in fact made up and not true, will help you to talk back to the voice in your head when it tries to scupper your fun and enjoyment of life.

Do call if you’d like a hand in getting this all in place. I do appreciate that it’s not easy to look at ourselves and be objective.

Enjoy your happiness going forwards!

Look forward to speaking soon,

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by Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach

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