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HOW ARE YOU COPING?

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One step at a time....

In this video I’m talking about coping through the Covid-19 era. 

If you’re reading this in the future you’ll know more than we do, now.

I’m talking in the video about feeling positive in the face of adversity.

Whilst this is specifically about the situation surrounding the virus, the same logic applies to whatever bad time you’re going through.

I hope that it helps you to find inner peace in whatever trying time you’re going through now.

As ever, please do get in touch if you’d like some help and support with what you’re going through.

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How quickly do you lose your temper?

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Does your temper feel like a special Covid-19 temper?

Are you losing it more than usual?

At times, when we are in, what may feel like an increasingly confined space with others, tempers can flair.

We can feel more irritable than normal.

Why is that?

And what can you do about it?

We are in lock-down at the moment because of the Covid-19 virus.

We don’t know when this will end.

But can you imagine that as you are reading this in a year’s time, that it will be a distant memory.

I wonder what will have changed in the world as result of this pandemic?

My hope is that there will be more working at home and so less pollution with everyone travelling so much every day.

Less waste because we will remember having to eke out our supplies, not being able to freely go to the supermarket at the drop of a hat and stock up as we normally do.

More consideration for others as we’ve had to get used to respecting each others space.

Keeping a check on our elderly neighbours.

Will some good come of it?

We’ll see.

But back to being more irritable than normal......  I hope this video helps to explain things and help to calm things down for you!

As ever, do call if I can help. 


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Changing negative habits

Changing old habits can seem hard.

You’ve been doing it for so long that you can’t imagine being any other way.

It is possible to change

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a slog or an unpleasant experience to do so.

Watch this video and see what it opens up for you.

I hope that it sheds some light on how you can at least make a start on changing things for yourself.

Do let me know how you get on!

As always, if you'd like some help, do get in touch for a chat.


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How stressed are you?

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Stress can take over your life

Stress can make every day a challenge.

Always on edge.

Always frowning.

Always worried about what’s going to happen next to set you off again.

What can you do about it?

Thankfully there are solutions. 

Just because you've lived this way for years, doesn't mean it has to carry on forever. 

I hope that this video will give you an insight and some ideas about recognising and dealing with stress.

I'd love to help so please do get in touch for a chat.

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Are your relationships good?

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Good or bad.

Every one of your relationships is meaningful.

Are your relationships good?

I’m sure that for a lot of us we have a least some relationships that aren’t running as smoothly as we’d like.

It can really get you down.

This relationship may be one with someone who is close to you.

Or someone who has influence over you, like your boss.

Or even someone with whom you come into contact but isn’t an associate of yours as such. Maybe a friend of a friend. Maybe your partners uncle who turns up at every family gathering.

So what’s this all about?

What’s the big deal about this relationship business?

I do hope this video shines some light on the issue for you.

Do call if this raises issues for you and you’d like some help.

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Over 50 and loving it? Or not..

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How are you finding your 50's?


For some it is a joyous time, but for others it's a challenge.


If female, you may be dealing with the menopause as well, which makes everything that much harder.


Indeed if you're male and your partner is going through the menopause it may well be having some effect on you. 


There are lots of reasons that we might find this age a challenge.


Hopefully this video will give you some tips as to how you can turn things around and enjoy it! 


As ever, do get in touch if you'd like any help. 


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Are you nice?

Are you nice to everyone, or just everyone else?

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Being truly nice to yourself can be a challenge....

How much do you put up with?

Not from other people but from yourself.

Does the voice inside you keep saying negative things that are making you miserable?

Sometimes there can be an incessant stream of negativity.

Stuff about yourself:

‘My friends always look so good. I look awful’

‘No-one’s coming to speak to me. No-one likes me.’

‘I wish I was interesting to talk to. Life would be fun then’

We even make stuff up:

‘I bet if I join that club I’ll be the outsider. I’ll be the one everyone laughs at’

‘I know what will happen if I go to that party. I’ll be stuck in the corner on my own’.

Why do we do that?

It’s almost as though we’re deliberately sabotaging our happiness.

In fact it’s not ‘almost as though’. You are sabotaging your happiness!

Why would you do that?

Why would you make sure that you don’t enjoy anything.

Ensure that you don’t feel good about yourself?

There are loads of reasons for this and it will be different for each of us.

It’s made up of things that we’ve experienced in life.

These experiences have ‘taught’ us that the negative things are fact.

Obviously the thoughts we have aren’t fact but that’s how it seems.

Imagine a life free from these negative thoughts.

How can you do that?

The first thing is to recognise when you’re having these thoughts and stop them.

‘I know what will happen if I go to that party. I’ll be stuck in the corner on my own’.

No!

‘I know when I turn up at that party that I will be fun, entertaining and good company. People will love talking to me.’

Change every negative around. Don’t listen to the voice.

Secondly, think about where the negative idea comes from.

You may realise that the idea came from one occasion 20 years ago when someone told you that you were boring.

When you recall that situation you remember that it was someone who was always putting you down. Someone who was always trying to show that they were better than you.

Realising this will also help you to realise that there was no truth in the put-downs.

They were things that person made up in order to try and feel better than you.

Having established that the fact that you are boring was in fact made up and not true, will help you to talk back to the voice in your head when it tries to scupper your fun and enjoyment of life.

Do call if you’d like a hand in getting this all in place. I do appreciate that it’s not easy to look at ourselves and be objective.

Enjoy your happiness going forwards!

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Has your New Year started well?

Has your New Year started well?

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This can be a brilliant and exciting time of year, or it can feel as though there's a big hill in front of us to climb.

The New Year can be a funny time.


Are you raring to go, full of plans and ideas?


Or are you someone for whom January certainly doesn't feel like the time to be setting goals and feel enthusiastic?


To be honest, the New Year doesn't mean much to me in terms of 'New Year New Start'.


I do find though that over Christmas I've generally had a little bit more time to stop and think.


The regular 'busy-ness' of my life changes. Probably still busy with things in the diary but its a different kind of busy. 


It feels  to me as though the world goes to sleep for a few days.

Most people are holed up in their homes. The streets are empty. There's not all the usual noise going on.


I find that relaxing.


This give me the chance to let my mind settle and to think. 


The act of doing that tends to bring forth ideas.


It wakes up dreams that I'd forgot I wanted to achieve.


Once everything goes back to normal after the festivities, I feel full of enthusiasm for the ideas I've been having. 


Maybe this can be for you too.


It's not necessarily about joining in with the New Year's Resolution hype.

It's about you.    

 

Do it for yourself,

 not just because it's New Year and everyone's at it.


Let me know how you get on!


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Where do you go from here?

Change can be good, but scary.


The key to making the right change is to know what it is that we’re aiming for.

I hope you get some good tips and a way forward in this video.

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Achieving your dream

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You have to have a dream if you want it to come true.

Do you have a dream?

And is a dream the same as a goal?


That depends on what you do with it.


If your dream is something you use to entertain yourself on the bus on the way to work but never take any action on it then that is just a dream.


If you take that dream and apply some action to making it come true, then it becomes a goal.

I hope this video helps you clarify things around your dreams and goals. 

I'd love to chat with you about what might be troubling you around this topic.


Do get in touch.


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