How much happiness do you have in your life?
Loads or not much?
Happiness can seem an elusive thing sometimes.
If you aren’t feeling as happy as you could be, what might be behind this?
Maybe you do feel happy but have a feeling that something is holding you back. Something is nipping at your heels all the time and upsetting your peace of mind.
If this is the case for you, do give it some thought.
What might be behind these feelings?
In order to be truly happy, we need to establish what is going on for us that is creating these negative feelings.
If there’s an area of your life that doesn’t feel good to you, can you change it?
Should you change it?
Will you change it?
As far as we know we only live once, so do you feel you should make this the best life possible?
Consider this in deciding whether to change a negative aspect of your life.
If you need any help then please do get in touch for a chat.
Otherwise I wish you all the best in digging deep to discover what it is that’s hampering your happiness, and clearing it.
It might not be easy but it will definitely be worth it!
Here’s to a happier future!
Look forward to speaking soon!
Hello I’m Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach.
How happy are you?
And this isn’t necessarily shown by how big a smile you’ve got, or how often you smile.
It goes a lot deeper than that.
You may be aware of certain areas of your life that you’re pushing to one side. You’re not happy with it by hey ho, it’ll do for the time being.
Maybe you’re not happy at work but….. that’ll be alright.
Maybe you’re not happy in your romantic relationship. But…..what if I don’t find someone else? What if I’m left on my own? No, I’ll put up with what I’ve got. I’m not happy and I don’t like it but it’s better than nothing.
But is it better than nothing?
Even though we might decide on a conscious level that situations will have to do, we’ll have to put up with them, it doesn’t mean that the deeper dissatisfaction goes away just because we’ve decided we’re going to put up with it.
And that dissatisfaction will show itself to you in lots of different ways.
For example the other day I was over the park and this massive dog came haring towards us. Massive thing, really fast and bouncy. I wasn’t worried on a safety level, I didn’t think it was going to attack us, it was clearly just an excited and enthusiastic dog and it just happened to be big and fast
But my reaction to it was: I stood stock still and was feeling vulnerable and close to tears.
It was a total overreaction to what had happened.
So for the rest of my walk round the park, I thought ‘What was that all about?’.
What made me overreact in that way?
What gave me that feeling of insecurity and vulnerability?
And when I realised what it was about, I made some decisions around it and put a plan in place to alleviate the problem.
Had I not reacted to that feeling, either ignored it or not recognised it as odd, then I believe that a while later I would have got another signal, a little bit stronger. And then another one a bit stringer still. All the time I’m ignoring it or not recognising it, the signals are getting stronger.
For me, the stronger signals would be muscle tension or migraine.
The signals that we get will be different for all of us. You may have similar to ones or completely different .
But the key is, when you get a signal, in whatever shape of form that takes, do take notice of it.
That deep dissatisfaction won’t go away just because we’ve decided that we’re going to put up with a particular thing in our lives.
And when you get these signals and you think about it and know what it’s about, do you really have to put up with this thing in your life or can you change it?
Easy said than done I know. It’s not always easy to change these things. I’m not suggesting you simply say ‘I’m going to leave my partner and find someone else.’. I do appreciate that there’s more to it than that.
But the bottom line is that if you don’t make these changes you’re going to forever have this dissatisfaction underneath that will be affecting so many different areas of your life that you’re not even aware of it affecting.
Also, as in my experience, if we ignore these things they can present as actual illnesses in the end. The signals get stronger and stronger until you do something about it.
A ‘Level 2’ signal might be when we have sleepless nights.
I imagine when it gets to that stage we may have had a couple of signals before which we haven’t recognised or dealt with. So we then have some sleepless nights that may not be normal for us. In fact if it is normal then maybe these signals have been going on for a long time.
A sleepless night of course can be because of loads of different things. It might be because of what we’ve been eating or drinking, or maybe we have a particular thing that we’re working through that’s causing it. Or it could be a signal that your body is saying ‘This things needs looking at and dealing with’.
So if you get any signals, don’t ignore them, is what I’m trying to say here.
I wish you all the best in sorting out whatever it is that’s giving you this underlying dissatisfaction, so that you can lead a happier life.
If you need any help then you know where I am and I’ll be happy to have a chat with you about it. Otherwise I wish you all the best and would love to hear how you get on.
Thanks for listening.
Speak to you soon.
Bye for now!
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by Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach