'The trouble is, you think you have time.'
This is the case for most of us in relation to most areas of our lives.
We think that we have time to study for our exams and go out every night until the day before.
We think we have enough time to prepare for that interview.
We end up travelling to the appointment with no knowledge of the company we’re trying to get into and trying to remember the name of the person we are to ask for. Oops.
We think we have enough time to do all of those things on our bucket list.
The reality is that unless we get organised about it, we won’t have enough time.
If you have an exam or any sort of event coming up, plan in advance for it.
Look at how many days or weeks you have between now and then.
Write down all of the things that need doing and prepare a schedule with timings:
Two days to sort out X and Y, three days to sort out Z and so on.
This will serve two purposes:
Firstly you will know whether you’re on track to get everything done.
Secondly, because you have a list of everything that needs to be done, nothing will get missed.
What about your bucket list?
What’s on it?
A few years ago I had four things that I was going to do when I retired:
1. Start playing a sport.
3. Write a book.
4. Have my own vegetable patch
None of them likely to set the world on fire I admit but they were things that I wanted to do.
Why was I waiting until retire to do these things?
The reason I gave myself was that I didn’t have the time.
I thought about this.
When I retire I will have time on a day to day basis to do these things.
But will I want to do them then?
Will I have the energy?
Will they still hold interest for me?
If these are things that I want to do, they are things I want to do now.
For many reasons they may not be relevant down the line. I need to do them now.
What does this apply to on your list of things to do?
So, back to my bucket list:
I got my vegetable patch going, I started a course on how to write a book, I joined a netball team and I started to play a brass instrument in a band.
I wasn’t very good at netball – it was always too cold and I wasn’t as quick or fit as I remember being when I played it at school!
I did the vegetable patch for a couple of years and loved it although it was hard work and very time consuming. After a couple of long winters ruining my planting routine I gave up.
The book didn’t come about as the passion that I thought I had for it wasn’t really there.
The band was good! I enjoyed playing the baritone horn - a great hobby!
The practising, rehearsals and jobs took up a lot of time and so I've had to put it on hold. I will go back to it at some point though!
The point of this story wasn’t to bore you to sleep, but to demonstrate that we need to take the bull by the horns. We need to be proactive if we want to do something.
As was the case with me, not all of things on my list turned out to be the dream pursuits that I had anticipated but had I never tried them, I would never have known.
In years to come, looking back I’d have regretted not doing the things on my list assuming that they would have been life changing activities.
I could have been the next JK Rowling!
If I hadn’t tried to write I would never have found out.
As it turned out I wasn't but I didn't know that at the start.
In fact in years to come when I was looking back, had I not tried it I would probably have assumed that I would have been the next JK Rowling .
I’d then live full of regret for the life that I didn’t have as a best selling author.
What’s on your list of things to do?
Find a partner?
Get your dream job?
Write these things down.
Go through each wish and examine it.
What will it mean to you to make this a reality?
Note down the positives and negatives.
For example ‘I want to start a vegetable garden’
Fresh vegetables on tap, Fresh air, Exercise, Zero carbon footprint (packaging, travel to shop etc), Time for me, Save money
Dirty finger nails, Time commitment, May not be very good at it, My partner won’t like it
Then look at these two lists.
Do the pros outweigh the cons?
If so, look at what else might be stopping you going ahead with it?
Do another list of the barriers stopping you doing this thing.
Go through the list to come to your final decision as to whether you want to go ahead.
.....then do it!
Whether it is a vegetable patch, a new relationship, an overhaul of your appearance or to get a good social life start now!
I would love to help you with this. I realise it’s not always easy to do this alone from writing the lists, analysing them or putting the thing into action.
Do give me a call for a free, no obligation chat and let’s talk about it.
Otherwise, if you are happy to do this alone then I wish you every success in achieving your dreams!
Bye for now!
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by Jessica Hylands Confidence Coach
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